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OK, it's getting talked about all over, and sounds like it is a completely dead idea at this point, but for those of you talking about about the Open Source Boob Project, rather than post the same thing in several journals, I thought I'd just post my unique perspective as a person with breasts of two different materials:

First, I am entirely too private a person to allow public handling of my breasts, in any context other than a bra fitting. In fact, I throw a fit when someone bumps my chair (next story); I'm not going to even encourage someone to ask if they can fondle my breasts.

However, if this should somehow survive and morph into something at Worldcon this August, I have decided to participate. I will modify my bra so my prosthesis is easier to access (It goes in a big pocket with a tiny top, so I would put a slit in the pocket for faster removal), wear the button, and should anyone ask if they could touch my breast, I will reach in, pull out the prosthesis, and drop it in his hand. I suspect that will be good for a couple of freakouts before word spreads not to ask the crazy chick in the wheelchair.

I don't actually suspect that it will migrate to Denvention -- it's been killed dead dead dead in theferret's journal and he's had to close the discussion because he was drowning in mail. (although you can just turn off mail notification for a specific post, but I think he also wore out because of the variaty of interpretations of the issue. But if it does, that is exactly what I will do. In fact, I will have a micro Leatherman with me, and if the OSBP crops up, I will modify my bra then and there for the sheer joy of the FOM and making the point.

That other story:

galen_dp and I went to see George Carlin last Saturday. He is now 70, and as he announced at the beginning of his show, "an old fuck." He's always been cynical, and that hasn't changed. He doesn't do the "Seven Words You Can't Say on Television" any more; instead he sells a T-shirt with two thousand dirty words on it in very fine print.

Before we went to the show, we went to Maggiano's Little Italy at the Denver Pavilions. Their food is good, and most of it extremely plentiful; we ordered a couple of their smaller entrees, bruschetta, and a single side dish and were quite full. Other of their entrees are huge. Everything was quite delicious. We had an excellent server, Marie, who not only took great care of us while we were at table, but saw to it I could get in and out of the Ladies" Room after dinner, and then made sure that I got out of the (very crowded with prom attendees) restaurant afterward. However, the tables are quite close together, and one of the staff was constantly bumping in to my chair. Well, we did have a website to go to for commenting, so I did. I praised Marie highly for her professionalism and caring, and then I said something along the lines of:

When a person is in a wheelchair, quite often at least part of the reason for that is that the person is in pain. Pain is certainly one of the reasons that I am in a wheelchair. One of the Maggiano's staff members repeatedly bumped into my power wheelchair. I don't know who, but it was a younger man. I would like to ask you to inform your staff that when a person is in a wheelchair, that wheelchair should be treated as an extensiion of the patron's body. No one would repeatedly bump into a person standing in a room not in a wheelchair, and when a person is in a chair, it often hurts even more than it would bumping into a non-disabled person.

Monday, I got a letter from Maggiano's, thanking me for my information, assuring me they would address the issues in training, as well as acknowledging Marie for her excellent service. And they gave me $20 in gift cards to return to Maggiano's. Hubby looked at them and said "I guess you're going to Maggiano's for lunch sometime soon, honey!" It was a great outcome, and more responsive than I expected.

The Gothling is loving her cell phone. She loves to text me -- I'm trying to train her not to use it during the school day at all. I think we'll get there, as she doesn't want to have the phone confiscated. I've been playing with the Family Locator service, and it's great. Sometimes it gets down to what it claims is within 7 yards of the location, but it always says, when it gets that close, that we're at the next door neighbor's house. I think that's a faint skewing of the map, because when I pull up the satellite picture, it shows us in the house, but the home landmark is a bit to the east. I definitely feel better about her being out of reach when I can look and see where she is from the computer or the phone.

Looks like I will be starting a support group, or possibly two, in June. I need to talk to the neighborhood library and see if they are interested in having a support group there; Y-ME has the room reservations made for the first Tuesday of the month at the American Cancer Society building. I should have an announcement to post soon; both meetings will probably be at the lunch hour. I'll probably post information on the local pagan lists as well -- I know I have one couple that wants to attend if it will fit their schedule.

We're pretty happy with the Sleep Number bed. I'd like to make my side softer to sleep on, but my back protests. However, most of the time it does seem to reduce my overall pain levels as long as I keep my number at 60 or above. I set it to full during the day and it is far more comfortable to sit on than the old, worn-out bed we did have, and that is a major blessing right there. I do get occasional pain spikes still, most often when the barometer is dropping. Like today, when the wind kicked up and I got pain in my back and my left ankle. ("Radicular" pain. I don't recommend it to anyone, honestly.)

I'm concerned about a couple of friends in miserable, unpleasant jobs. I wish I had some magic networking solution that would help either one find a job that s/he actually enjoyed and paid a living wage. If you think I'm talking about you, I probably am, and if I do run across something (slightly more likely for the local friend) I will let you know.


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Apr. 24th, 2008 07:36 am (UTC)
Family Locator service, huh? Interesting. I didn't know you could already do that.

Do you think memory foam over the Sleep number would help any? One of the things I like about foam is the way it holds heat, which keeps the hurting bits warm. And a thin layer of foam over a firm mattress seems to work pretty well.

Hooray for responsive management! And George Carlin, too.
Apr. 24th, 2008 07:48 am (UTC)
Actually, we got the top of the line bed, which has two layers of foam, one memory foam and one stiffer. Memory foam is a bit soft for me, I lose all integration of my pelvis and it hurts and is a little scary. On top of that, I'm always hot, so the foam would be a bad choice there...anyway, hubby has his memory foam on top of the stiffer foam on his side, and mine is flipped the other way. The combination of the foam and the air bladder gave me absolutely the best sitting experience, so we totally splurged.
Apr. 24th, 2008 09:25 am (UTC)
"should anyone ask if they could touch my breast, I will reach in, pull out the prosthesis, and drop it in his hand."

you are made of win and awesome! :D
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Apr. 25th, 2008 06:48 am (UTC)
Thank you.
Apr. 25th, 2008 06:48 am (UTC)
*wicked grin* Thanks.
Apr. 24th, 2008 02:13 pm (UTC)
"I will modify my bra so my prosthesis is easier to access (It goes in a big pocket with a tiny top, so I would put a slit in the pocket for faster removal), wear the button, and should anyone ask if they could touch my breast, I will reach in, pull out the prosthesis, and drop it in his hand. I suspect that will be good for a couple of freakouts before word spreads not to ask the crazy chick in the wheelchair."

This is pure gold.

I hope you won't object if I point someone who I don't believe knows you (but who was very incensed over this same post/topic/flamewar) at this post of yours. I know she will find your responses amusing/encouraging.
Apr. 24th, 2008 06:51 pm (UTC)
My posts are all locked. I can add her on your say-so so she can see it, though.
Apr. 25th, 2008 01:58 am (UTC)
I've no idea whether you two would get along or not, but it's possible, maybe even probable.
Apr. 24th, 2008 06:55 pm (UTC)
Never mind, I decided it was topical enough and didn't reveal any deep, dark secrets, so I unlocked the post. If she's already tried to see it, she can try again now.
Apr. 24th, 2008 02:15 pm (UTC)
Also props to Maggiano's for their proper response.
(being the skeptical cynic that I am, I will give them MORE props if your letter generates any actual change)
Apr. 24th, 2008 03:24 pm (UTC)
Great email to the restaurant!
Apr. 25th, 2008 06:48 am (UTC)
Thank you.
Apr. 25th, 2008 04:59 am (UTC)
On the Job Front
I happen to know the Aurora Housing Authority is hiring. I don't know if anyone you're looking at has the skillz, but I'm always about the networking.
Apr. 25th, 2008 06:22 am (UTC)
Re: On the Job Front
Oh, agreed, I'm all about the networking. I've passed it on to one friend and will send the lead to another.
Apr. 25th, 2008 04:11 pm (UTC)
I'm happy things worked out so well for you regarding the restaurant. Sounds like some place Huby and I will have to try out when Denvention rolls around.
Apr. 25th, 2008 10:42 pm (UTC)
I work in the American Cancer Society building. Let me know if you are going to be there and if I can I will come down and say hi.
Apr. 26th, 2008 12:02 am (UTC)
Coolness. I'll be there from 10:30 till probably 1 in Conference Room A on the first Tuesday of the month, starting in June. The meeting is scheduled from 11 to 12:30. Y-ME is only a block or so from that building as well. You're only a couple miles from my house there -- not to mention Sunflower market, which piratefae used to frequent. (I think she may have given up on them, but I think their produce has improved, though they did have a bad spot.)
May. 5th, 2008 10:14 am (UTC)
*laughs hysterically at your icon*
May. 5th, 2008 06:50 pm (UTC)
Happy to entertain. That one's cool too.
May. 1st, 2008 10:45 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the add back and for the screen. :)

I didn't meet you until I started studying Wicca, so I'm not sure what happened there.... old news, though. Thanks!
May. 1st, 2008 10:56 pm (UTC)
Ah, no biggy. I don't take unfriending personally, unless the person makes in personal -- I just remove folks who aren't reading me.
May. 6th, 2008 01:39 am (UTC)
hi there
I read your disclaimer and definitely agree with it :)

You seem like a really open minded and interesting person,... ...and I would love to read your posts :)
Aug. 12th, 2008 12:55 am (UTC)
Hey, it's Deb. Found you again via the Denvention group because I couldn't remember your LJ name for the life of me.

And yes, I read your disclaimer.

And damn, I miss Carlin.
Aug. 12th, 2008 02:07 am (UTC)
Great! I'm still terrifically behind online and will probably not catch up completely till the weekend, but I'm happy to add you as well.
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