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Plea for help -- local

OK, I put this off as long as I could.

I don't know how many of you know Rex Baker, also known as Southwynde and Igrimsk, and the Vice-President of Hearthstone.

Rex is very ill and destitute. Between the church and a generous friend, we were able to cover his rent for this month. He has an interview with SSDI on the 15th of February, but they most likely will take 90 days to refuse him, and frankly, he doesn't have that long. I am calling Denver Social Services tomorrow to see if they can provide some emergency help, but even if they do, that won't pay for his phone, which is his main method of maintaining contact with the world.

I am asking two things:

1. If he is important to you in any way, call him now. It does him more good now than it will after he has crossed over.

2. If (and I know a lot of us can't) you can help with his expenses, please contact me or Catherine.


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Feb. 10th, 2005 02:16 am (UTC)
If you can get him hooked up with any sort of state aid to the disabled or terminally ill, he would qualify for the federal Lifeline program which would help pay for his telephone line. There is some information here toward the bottom of the page.

Sorry I can't be of more help.
Feb. 10th, 2005 02:44 am (UTC)
Are you kidding? This is info I didn't have before, and therefore it's incredibly helpful. Thanks!
Feb. 10th, 2005 05:52 am (UTC)
Phone help
I dont know about colorado but in Nebraska its as easy as if you qualify for food stamps you qualify for lifeline.
Feb. 10th, 2005 07:36 pm (UTC)
Re: Phone help
I'm working on it. First I have to convince him to deal with Social Services and get food stamps.
Feb. 10th, 2005 08:17 am (UTC)
Whether or not he qualifies long-term, have him apply for food stamps, first--most states have a three-month emergency program for anyone. Also, GET HIM INTO SOCIAL SERVICES--if they're any kind of helpful agency, they'll have a list of food banks, medical clinics, clothing banks, et cetera. Do that.

Then there's this, I don't know if any of this will help:

Housing Advocacy Coalition
Organizes low-income tenants to become leaders in the fight to preserve and create low-income housing, focusing on project-based Section 8 tenants. Works with all renters to meet state representatives and senators to improve tenant’s rights:

Address: 2023 E. Bijou
Colorado Springs, CO 80909
Phone: 719-634-0738
Fax: 719-634-0739

Community Housing Services, Inc.
Provides information and referrals to Denver residents as well as other residents throughout the state of Colorado on housing problems such as questions about lease agreements, security deposits, evictions, repairs, rent increases, habitability code, and locating affordable and emergency housing.

Address: 1905 Sherman Street, Suite 745
Denver, CO 80203
Office Phone: 303-831-1750
Landlord/Tenant Info: 303-831-1935
TTY: 303-831-0485
Fax: 303-831-0599

Jeffco Action Center Landlord/Tenant Conseling
Helps landlords and tenants in the Denver Metro Area. Explains tenant and landlord legal rights, makes suggestions about disputes, and provides counseling in dealing with government assistance programs. Jeffco can also help with emergency rent assistance.

Address: 8755 W. 14th Avenue
Lakewood, CO 80215-4895
Phone: 303-237-0230
Fax: 303-237-6002
Web Address: http://www.jefcoac.org/
Email: tlc@jeffcoac.org

Any of these groups might know something to help him out. Have him hit food banks, ask around for any free meal kitchens--some have days just for women, some just for adult men, he should fit into some category--and above all, swallow the HELL out of his pride and accept help from people!

This is the only address I could find for Colorado social services. And remember the Krishna Temple on Cherry Street might still be offering free food-with-service. Which is dern tasty if you like Indian food.

But I'd call and ask:

ISCON Krishna Temple
1400 Cherry St.,
Denver, CO 80220,
(303) 377-4060 or (303) 399 8307

And that's all I can think of right now. I'd say also call Goodwill, Salvation Army, St. Vincent de Paul's, the local Masonic lodge, and just about every church in the book while he has a phone. Everyone has a name, knows somebody, or can actually help out. He'll get tired of hearing his story and he'll need lots of support from those who love him, but sooner or later, he WILL get help.

Granted, it was Spokane when I pulled this trick last, but between six churches, two Masonic lodges, the Kiwanis and two very good citizens one month, I got a $380 back electricity bill paid and $100 of the phone bill. Which left just enough money clear for rent until we pulled out of the bad situation.
Feb. 10th, 2005 07:38 pm (UTC)
All he can digest right now is chicken, so soup kitchens and the like are of limited use. I'm working on social services w/in Denver right now, and will try to get him in for food stamps as soon as I can have him awake during office hours. He's turned into a vampire. He won't swallow his pride; that's why it's gotten this bad.
Feb. 11th, 2005 02:09 am (UTC)
Not necessarily--all he can digest right now is chicken, period, or that's the only meat he can handle? Because the Krishna Temple is vegetarian. Ask around--I'm not turning up any in a search, but that doesn't mean there aren't any Seventh Day Adventist free restaurants around.

It does take a while. It took me a good five years to give in and accept the help that was out there. And if I had, if I had, I wouldn't be as sick as I am now, I wouldn't have gotten so much worse, a lot of things wouldn't have happened.

Tell him--it's take help from people, or die. If death is his choice, quit fighting him so hard.
Feb. 11th, 2005 02:24 am (UTC)
Chicken, period. He tried potato chips, which didn't go well and he used to be able to eat; I suggested a baked potato instead as being better for him anyway. He's trying puffed rice and corn chips cooked in corn oil. Haven't heard yet how well those experiments are going. But he can't have dairy, can't have gluten, and can't have soy, just for starters. So he's going to be damned hard for any charitable organization to feed. Hopefully, he'll get some food stamps tomorrow.
Feb. 12th, 2005 02:39 am (UTC)
Yeesh. Okay, that's frightening. But I do know from personal experience--they're not crazed if all you buy is junk food, but they can't stop you from doing it--if he wants to get $50 in chicken, hey, at least it's food.

No dairy, no gluten...well, you'd know better than I what places carry spelt-flour baked goods, which is the no-gluten alternative...and no soy. Argh. That does restrict things.

However--though it might be a case of calling/stopping by a lot of health food stores, first to make sure they accept food stamps, second to make sure they have what I'm going to mention--there are several varieties of nut and grain milks. No gluten pretty much means no grain, but there's almond and hazelnut milks on the market--I've seen 'em, I've drunk 'em. Both are too sweet for cooking/baking anything but desserts, but no gluten, no dairy, he wouldn't be worrying about that anyway.

Rex...Rex Rex Rex...do I know this guy? Did I go out with him and a bunch of us to a very long but narrow restaurant where we argued the waiter into bringing us every kind of fruit they had, so he'd have something to eat? Does he do reiki?

If so, I know who it is, and while I'm still going to be Unsympathetic Bitch, I'll take back some of the more barbed comments. 'Cos he really didn't know how to push things then, but he was a sweet guy.
Feb. 12th, 2005 05:28 am (UTC)
He was Igrimsk on Mom's, and we dated for a very short while. He does energy work, but I don't think Reiki.

Spelt still has gluten, but people who are allergic to wheat can have it. Wild Oats accepts food stamps, and they're kind of the local health food store conglomerate.

He still doesn't want to push. You'd be amazed at how many of us are behind him forcing him forward. But he's a sweetie.
Feb. 12th, 2005 08:41 am (UTC)
I dunno, sounds like the same guy. Very tall, very thin? Used to come to Trygve's parties. Worked on my knees once right after the accident that started everything to go wrong, and I could actually walk around without pain for two full weeks.

Maybe not the same guy. *shrugs* And my memory is not what it used to be.

Wild Oats is spendy, as I recall, but good. Possibly also, depending on what part of town he's in and what they do, consider King Soopers--obviously, I don't know how these things are done now, but at the time I was in Denver, they delivered. For cash or food stamp customers.
Feb. 12th, 2005 10:34 am (UTC)
I think it's the same guy. He did confirm that he practices Reiki while we were chatting a while ago.

When all you eat is chicken, legs are actually pretty cheap. And with his wonky digestion, he prefers organic because who knows what his body would do with the hormones and antibiotics in most commercial meat. And he does go to KS and the like as well. He's 6', so yeah, very tall works. (Doug's 6'5" now, a little taller than Trygve, so Rex doesn't strike me as tall, but I plead unusual circumstances.) And at the moment he's practically skeletal, but he's eating again, so maybe we can get 10-15 lbs on him so he is no longer malnourished.

(we now pause to savor the irony that you and I are trying to get someone to put weight on.) OK, I'm done savoring.
Feb. 12th, 2005 05:52 pm (UTC)
(we now pause to savor the irony that you and I are trying to get someone to put weight on.)

No friggin' doubt.

Hey--I am now on a weird new migraine medication. In addition to all the other wonky side effects of Topamax (and believe me, they are some WONKY side effects!), I was heavily cautioned that, if we end up in the higher doses, it could cause weight loss.

I just blinked at my neurologist.

"No, really, because I'm so happy being this size," I said.

She blinked back.

"Oh, well...yeah," she said.

That was fun. :)
Feb. 12th, 2005 08:43 pm (UTC)
That's great. The migraine cure that I've found works best for me is Irish coffee or rum and coke. The caffiene is a vasoconstrictor for the inflamed blood vessels in my head, and the rum is a relaxant so I can sleep the damned thing off.
Feb. 12th, 2005 09:39 pm (UTC)
I'm very annoying--caffeine is a trigger for me 50% of the time. I never know when it's going to cure a headache, and when it's going to cause one.

My neurologist also put me on amidrine, which is very confusing--the instructions she gave me, the instructions that are printed on the bottle, and the instructions on the print-out sheets that Rite Aid includes...are all different. That's going to take some figuring out.
Feb. 13th, 2005 12:51 am (UTC)
My big trigger is aspartame. Smaller triggers are foods that have some of the same chemicals, but only if my hormones at just the right point. So I try to avoid beef, cheese, and chocolate the week before.

Although, since perimenopause, I've only had a couple of migraines.
Feb. 13th, 2005 02:45 am (UTC)
Doesn't that bode ill, considering I'm supposedly in perimenopause...Beef can be a trigger? And I thought only sharp cheese, containing mold or wine, were triggers. Cheese in general...I'm going to have to revise a lot, or keep a migraine journal.

So far I know coffee (half the time), red wine, and chocolate are triggers (at least most of the time). I don't use aspartame or MSG, when I can manage to avoid sources of MSG, because I react badly to them. I've started using Splenda (three small desserts in three days) but I don't think tonight's migraine can be attributed to that, as those were small amounts over Wednesday, Thursday and Friday nights.

Gah...there's so much I have to learn.
Feb. 13th, 2005 03:46 am (UTC)
Well, migraines are extremely idiosyncratic. For me, the hormone drops have reduced the number of migraines. And migraine triggers are completely different for everyone, although I don't think I know a single soul with migraines that can tolerate aspartame. Some folks trigger on onions, or olives, or a certain shade of pink. About the only way to get a handle on it is to keep a journal about what was going on when you got hit.

I can give myself a migraine doing magic eyes, too, but I can finally do the damn things. Just not many at a time.
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