Help a single mom out?

My friend, hestiax, is the single mom of a beautiful 5 year old girl. She told the father about it while she was pregnant; he said he didn't want to have anything to do with a baby, and she said she didn't intend to sue for child support.

She had been out of work for a couple of years, and finally found a data entry job that doesn't exactly pay a living wage. In order to afford to work, she had to file for childcare assistance. In order to file for childcare assistance, she had to name the father of the child. So the state took his name, forced a DNA test and sued him for child support. The support goes to her, but it is in place of assistance for the state. He wasn't happy, and asked her what had happened to their agreement that they each go their own way. She explained that she needed financial assistance and couldn't get any from the county without identifying him.

Now, after seeing her for two months on most weekends for a few hours at a time, and 5 years of no parenting experience whatsoever, he believes he should have at least half custody, and have her stay with him in a tiny one-bedroom condo. Hestia would prefer a parenting class and supervised visitation, and definitely no sharing a bed with him, which he has stated he plans to do. (We aren't even sure his sharing a bed with her is legal.) He started lying and becoming abusive towards Hestia. Her daughter seems underwhelmed by him at this point. He is threatening her with suing for custody, and seems to think he could get full custody, which is highly unlikely with five years of abandonment.

In addition, we are fairly certain that he concealed a fair portion of his income, based on the small amount of child support he is paying.

So, Hestia needs an attorney. But she can't even afford clothes right now, much less a retainer. The attorney she has talked to requires a $2200 retainer, and there will probably be other expenses as well. Because she is receiving assistance, she cannot even collect donations to pay an attorney. However, I can.

If you can spare anything to help Hestia hire competent legal assistance, please donate. I will pay the attorney directly whatever money I can collect for that purpose.

You can donate through Paypal to margaretATfnorkyDOTcom. There will be a small fee, but all funds after those fees will be used for legal services.

This post is public. Feel free to link to it if you think there are other people who would like to help.

Note: I am aware that a lot of the information in this post is vague, that is necessary for privacy's sake. I can answer questions privately at (for faster response than the paypal address) or through PMs on LJ or Facebook. I will also screen responses on this post.

Note2: I thought I would need help paying for fixing my new dogs, but we managed to budget for that with a bit of effort. With us on disability and Hestia at a job that does not pay a living wage, we need a lot of help to keep her daughter safe and happy. Anything you can contribute would be greatly appreciated.

Signal Boost: Return of the DDoS

Originally posted by deathpixie at Signal Boost: Return of the DDoS
For those wanting to know more about the recent DDoS attacks, yes, it looks like it was the Russian government trying to shut down the dissidents again.

As I said last time, while it's frustrating not to have access, LJ is a lot more than a social network platform. From the article:

"LiveJournal isn’t just a social network. It’s also a platform for organizing civic action. Dozens of network projects and groups mobilize people to solve specific problems — from defending the rights of political prisoners to saving endangered historic architecture in Moscow."

So while I know many are considering the move over to Dreamwidth and other such sites, supporting LJ is a way we can help support those who use it for more than a writing/roleplaying/social venue.

Also, as a FYI, LJ is giving paid users effected by the outage two weeks of paid time as compensation.

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MODS! New LJ "Spam protection" -- turn it OFF if you maintain a community

Propagating Info -- Spread it around!

Snagged Verbatim from ron_newman, who posted this in permmembers

Sometime earlier this month, LiveJournal introduced a "Spam Protection" feature which screens comments made to any community or personal journal. LJ turned this on by default for all communities without any notice to community maintainers. LJ belatedly and incompletely described the new feature in this news announcement, several days or weeks after releasing it.

In an LJ community, this feature has the following effect:

- Comments that contain links (to domains not on a secret whitelist) are automatically hidden and moved to a "Suspicious Comments" page
- The user who made the original post cannot see these hidden comments and receives no notification that they exist
- Community maintainers also receive no notification that the hidden comments exist
- Community maintainers CAN look at the hidden comments, and then mark them as non-spam, but only if the maintainers know to look for them periodically in each and every new post to the community

If you maintain a community, and this doesn't sound good to you, turn the feature OFF by going to, selecting your community from the "Work as user:" menu, and then UNCHECK the checkbox labelled "Spam Protection Comments containing a link to a non-whitelisted domain will be marked as spam and moved to a special section."

I also recommend that you look over all of the comment pages from the last two weeks or so in your community, and see if any of them have an "(Read N suspicious comments") link on them. If they do, follow the link and mark each comment on that page as non-spam (using this button: )

The members of your community will appreciate this.

If I co-mod a community with you, I've already done this to all my communities as well as my own LJ.
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Denver Friends lunch poll!

EDIT: Whups, the correct date is December 11, a Saturday. I can't fix the date below as it's in the title of the poll, but plan on next Saturday.

I'm going to unlock this post to get opinions from folks on Facebook. Visitors, if you don't have an LJ logon, just post a comment anonymously -- it will be screened but I will make it visible and count it. Sign somehow so I know who is voting. People actually planning to attend will have more weight given to their vote. :^)

This is going to be a bit short notice; I'll look at the numbers and decide Tuesday night or Wednesday morning and post in both LJ and Facebook when I have decided.

If you have other restaurants you'd like to suggest, post them in the comments. I tend to choose restaurants that are easy for me to get to without driving, but if there is someplace awesome we should check out, I can arrange to get there some way!

Locations of the various restaurants are after the poll.

Poll #1653323 Dec 13 lunch

What strikes your fancy?

India Oven Indian buffet and menu
Beau Jo's Pizza and menu
Garbanzo's Mediterranean cafe style
Panera Bread Soup, salad, and sandwich
IHOP you know this one
Blue Moon Japanese
Saigon Terrace Vietnamese, including Pho
Annie's Cafe Diner food

India Oven is by the Sunflower at Amherst and Colorado Blvd.
Beau Jo's is at the corner of Yale and Colorado Blvd.
Garbanzo's and Panera are both in one building at Dickensen and Colorado Blvd, at the north end of the strip mall with Joann's and the North Face in it.
IHOP is at about Mexico and Colorado Blvd., where one of the Village Inns used to be.
Blue Moon is just south of Evans and Colorado Blvd.
Saigon Terrace is at Florida and Colorado Blvd.
Annie's Cafe is a ways further out -- it's at St. Paul and Colfax, about 4-5 blocks west of Colorado Blvd.

Tickybox and Moo are strictly for entertainment purposes and no promises are express or implied by their inclusion in the survey.
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For collectors

An LJ friend of mine is selling a bunch of really old pulp magazines. I saw pulps as far back as 1906 on her list, and a Cosmopolitan dated 1892.

It's a pretty impressive list, though I am no collector. I believe she'll be putting up comics next, though perhaps not quite as antique.

If you're interested, check out weirdodragoncat. Her pulps listing is at

I know she wants to sell these, so if you know any collectors, please point them in her direction. Her sale post is not locked.

And a post holiday dose of cuteness to get your attention:

funny pictures of cats with captions
see more Lolcats and funny pictures

Goodnight, Gracie.
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Bridget Now What?

Do you want a paid account?

Edit for clarity: As a paid user, I have 10 coupons to give away for anybody with free LJ accounts who want $10 off a year's worth of LJ.

So let me know if you want one. And give me an email unless you know for sure I have it.

Responses screened. Just in case.
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November 27 Open Full Moon in Denver, and 2010 Dates


Hearthstone meets the Friday before or the Friday of the Full Moon in the upstairs chapel at the First Unitarian Church at 14th and Lafayette in Denver. The church doors open at 7, and we like to start at 7:30. (We are NOT big proponents of Pagan Standard Time, but if there is weather related driving trouble or a problem on the freeway, we've been known to wait a bit longer.) This month's ritual is FRIDAY, November 27, 2009.

There will be no Open Full Moon in December, as the appropriate date would be December 25th. We will resume our regular schedule in 2010 ce.

After several requests, Hearthstone is organizing a Multiple Drawing Down for our last Open Full Moon of the calendar year. In this popular ritual, Priestesses and Priests offer themselves as vessels for the Divine. While Wicca encourages each person to establish their own connection with the Divine, the experience of coming face to face with Deity in a human body is an amazing experience. Children are welcome to attend with their parents or a coach to help them deal with what can be a very powerful experience.
Please plan to sit quietly for some amount of time while waiting for your turn to visit with whoever you wish. If you like, bring quiet tools for divination to work with while waiting. While we cannot guarantee what Deity you will meet with, we can tell you that the Officiates who have volunteered to serve as vessels are Alia, Judith, Ken/Greyhart, and Gary/Havenwood.

-­Catherine and Alia

2010 Open Full Moon Dates

January 29, 2010
February 26, 2010
March 26, 2010
April 23, 2010
May 21, 2010
June 25, 2010
July 23, 2010
August 20, 2010
September 17, 2010
October 22, 2010
November 19, 2010
December 17, 2010

(crossposted to colopagans.)

Now, to sleep again.

Goodnight, Gracie
I love the whole world, boom-di-yada

Started a new community

I just started poly_discuss with weirdodragoncat. The anger and wank has gotten so bad on polyamory and the snark group that I wanted someplace civilized, so I found a partner and started the group. It's an open group, stop by and sit a spell.

I'm mulling a couple of other communities, but I might just not be aware of the existence of an equivalant.

I would like to see a menopause and crone community, for one.

And I am thinking a neowiccan community to balance the BTW wiccan community would be a nice idea.

Am I missing an already existing community for either of these? If so, please point me to them.
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USA: People with Disabilities - Transportation Survey

In conjunction with a grant received from the Federal Transit Administration, Meeting the Challenge, Inc. is conducting a national survey designed to collect information from people with disabilities regarding their experiences with public transportation. Information gathered will be used to determine what barriers still exist in public transportation for people with disabilities and will be used to create Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) technical assistance materials directed toward alleviating those barriers.

This on-line survey can be accessed from this link: . It will take from 5 to 15 minutes to complete. If you know someone who does not have internet access and would like to participate the survey can be completed by phone by calling Meeting the Challenge at 800-864-4264 (select menu choice #2), Monday through Friday between 9 AM and 4 PM (MT). If you prefer a paper copy of the survey, call the same phone number. Responses to the survey will be collected through March 31.

Please forward this e-mail to any individuals with a disability or to any groups serving individuals with disabilities that you feel would be appropriate respondents. We thank you for your participation and assistance!

Cristi L. Harris
Special Projects Director
Meeting the Challenge, Inc
Colorado Springs, CO
(719) 444-0252 ext. 108 <> --

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